My condolences to everyone who has lost their baby or has one that's sick. And now, it's soapbox time. Off and on, we all write silly stories about our fuzzies, i.e., that they are members of the FLO, the teleport, silly things they do, our really neat Millenium Memo from God (Hey, God-tried to e-mail you personally but it came back, so want to tell you how great it was), the story of the Elvis impersonator that lives at Judy Cooke's house. I read today, much to my consternation, of another person who is thinking of taking a 'hiatus' from this post because of personal attacks on her and her posts. Her posting of her 'singing ferret doing the Elvis impersonation' being called stupid just about put the cork to me. I do not know, nor do I care who is doing the personal attacks, and let me tell you now, I think all this should come to a halt. Judy also wrote that she came under attack for taking her boys with her to North Carolina. Well, did the person doing the attack there nail anyone for wanting to take their babies camping????? Judy would never have taken her boys into a dangerous situation--she had been in contact with her son, knew the routes, etc. As for her taking a trip to Vegas, what business is this of anybody's???? Aren't the raffles that are held, other little things done in this vein a form of gambling??? I can remember a while back when poor Skeeter came under attack and had to go into hiding for quite some time. Now I wonder how many of us will have our stories called stupid if we feel like sharing them. I have watched the fire and flames here on the FML until I'm almost afraid to post something, and that is a shame. We are a listing made up of an extremely diverse group of people, all with knowledge to share, and hopefully humor to pass along. We are also made up of people in need-in need to ask questions, seek solace when one of our babies dies. And if all this keeps up, the people in need of solace and help are going to be afraid to ask or post, for fear of someone personally writing to them and attacking them. As to the people who request help monetarily, use your own judgement, give over here and quit trying to nail their asses to the courthouse walls. If you want to voice your opinion for pity sakes read the posting several times before you mail it. Think how you'd feel if this were directed at you-if you were having a hard time of it and were forced to ask for assistance- would you like to see this? As for them turning around a getting another ferret, perhaps they've just saved that ferret's life. You don't know, only God would know on this one. THIS HAS GOT TO STOP, PEOPLE. Before the person who wrote to Judy swings in on me, let me just ask you, or tell you, don't. I don't know who you are, nor do I want to know. Obviously you and Judy have some sort of difference going on. However, I would suggest before your anger eats you up, stop it, now. Maybe Judy insulted you, maybe you insulted her (if you called her the names she gave in today's poste, well, yeah, that's kind of an insult), but it's time to call a halt to this. I've been a member of this list for well over a year now, and suddenly it seems like the fighting, back lashing, bickering is totally out of hand. I know that Bill can't do anything when someone attacks another through their own e-mail at home, but perhaps we can use our own judgement. If you receive one e-mail slamming you, and I don't mean a mild criticism, a question, etc., I mean a hurtful, nasty slam, either block this person or delete their mail, don't read it. Bill, I ask of you, if this starts again on the FML with people slicing and dicing, can you please just delete these? We're here to help, not hurt, and we are not only hurting each other, we're hurting our babies because we'll stop exchaning ideas and stories. Rebecca & the Crew of Merry Mayhem ======================= Rebecca McFarlane Secretary Basic Medical Sciences School Veterinary Medicine Purdue University West Lafayette, IN 47907-1246 Phone: 765-494-8632 Fax: 765-494-0781 "Do not meddle in the affairs of dragons, for thou art crunchy and taste good with ketchup" P.S. I am NOT slamming those who take their babies camping. I think that's great if they can share that. I'm just trying to get the point across that people do various activities/trips, and do they get slammed... [Moderator's note: I hardy *ever* have been forwarded private flames someone received as a result of posting on the FML. I think, for the most part, people have handled these things privately. So, I don't know who is doing it, but, I agree it's not, umm, well, it's not a great thing. (If one day there is a book of famous poorly-worded moderator's notes, the above surely would make it into that book.) I may or may not be able to step in and help -- depends on the situation -- but I have to know who is doing it to even try. BIG] [Posted in FML issue 2817]