I hope I am not over stepping any boundaries but I must talk to some people owned by their ferrets. I heard that the ferret club/shelter I had taken in a 14 week old, male kit. He is a chocolate sable. I stated an interest in it, but the president, who does the adoptions, had already contacted the zoo to see if they wanted him for their petting zoo. Every time I talked to her I asked if she had heard from the zoo. When we talked on Wednesday, she said that she was going to call them I more time and if they didn't respond he was mine. At the yard sale yesterday morning she told me that I can have him. I was and still am in some ways excited. I cannot pick him up until sometime next week because is foster father is out of town. My problem began when I told my best friend that I got him. He got very mad at me. I had asked him to got to the store when he first came in, so he did that. Upon getting back, he put up the grocers and left stating that he was so mad that he was afraid that he would say something that he would have later regretted saying. I have never seen him this mad. We have been friends for 9 years. He has been with me through thick and then. I am disabled and he helps me a lot. I feel like I am between a rock and a hard spot, and no matter which way I go, I will be hurt. Last year Ferret Math attacked me. I went to a ferret show and saw two beautiful kits. One was cinnamon and the other a blaze. I knew that I couldn't really afford them at the time, so I passed. All year I have had my heart on getting another ferret this summer or fall. I have three ferrets, Faith - 3 1/2, Hope - 3 and Charrity 2. I have read several places that it is better to introduce kits to a group when the youngest one is 2. I have deliberately trying to stagger the ages of my ferrets, because I know I couldn't afford the vet bills if they were all to get sick at the same time. I don't believe that one more ferret will use that much more litter and = I by Totally Ferret by the 15 pound bag. I have enough ferretone that will last me a long time and plenty of shampoo. I already have a harness, which mine only wears when I take them on a walk. The shelter charges a $40 adoption fee per ferret. I know that this Kit has been recently examined by the vet (actually the same vet I go to) and has had her rabies and distemper shots so I don't have to worry about that big out lay of money. I don't want to loose such a valuable friend but I so VERY much want this little boy. I have been telling the girls that they are hopefully getting a little brother and when I came home last night I told them definitely they were getting him. I sort of makes me mad that my friend has taken such a hard stand on this subject. This is the first time I have done opposite of the feelings he has stated. Is he trying to dominate me or does he feel just that strong? I have done many things I haven't really wanted to do like sell much of my old furniture, when I moved, and purchasing a futon. He states we are just friends and have no possibility in becoming anything else. I know you cannot really tell me what to do, but I would REALLY REALLY know what you would do if you were in my shoes!!!!!!!!!!! Please take a few minutes to write me back. Only ferret people can understand where I am coming from. Praying for guidance: Phyllis and the Wigglies, Faith, Hope, Charrity and hopefully a little male. [Posted in FML issue 2332]