Dear Laura, I am so sorry to hear about your baby girl Riley. I can't begin to imagine how you feel but I am certain that I will feel the same when Lucy's time comes. Although she is not my first and I love all my girls very much, Lucy and I have a very special relationship. Please try to remember the joy Riley brought you and that she is never really gone as long as she is in your heart. I know that memories can't make up for her not being there anymore but at least you shared a time with her that I'm sure you wouldn't give up for the world. Years ago I found this poem. Everytime I read it it brings back a rush of memory's and emotions and reminds me that my loved ones are still alive in my heart. I no longer visit graves. Instead I look for them to come again. I Am Not There: Do not stand on my grave and weep. I am not there. I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow, I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the sunlight on ripened grain, I am the gentle autumn's rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush, I am the swift uplifting rush, of quiet birds in circled flight, I am the soft stars that shine at night. Do not stand on my grave and cry, I am not there, I did not die. God bless and love to all, Irena...Lucy, Chelsea, Tabitha, and Rikki's mom [Posted in FML issue 1601]