I'd like to thank Paw Paw for his comments on the term SO. Outside the mailing list, I have mostly seen it as shorthand for someone you are living with but not married to (the real word is "postleque" (sp?) and who would want to use *that* for someone they love?). When I realized it was being used to describe spouses on the mailing list, I thought this must be a Net shorthand like BTW and TNT. However, among friends, I'd prefer to use the word husband. It describes a unique state of commitment, even for those who believe divorce is an option. Personally, I tried divorce last time I married. This time I'd rather cut off my arm. Just my $0.02. Judith White [Posted in FML issue 1524]