I read far too often or hear from others that they just can't take the pain of loss and are not going to open their hearts and homes to ferrets anymore. For every ferret that could have had a good loving home with these people, I am sad. For every ferret that suffers at the hands of ignorance, I am sad. For every ferret that is passed from person to person, never finding a real home, I am sad. For every ferret that sits in it's cage for hours on end because their people don't have time to let them out, I am sad. For every ferret that goes without vet care, nutritious diet, loving care, I am sad. I've been working with ferrets for 25 years and my only regret is for the ones I've not been able to help. As painful as loss is, knowing there are ferrets that could be helped and weren't is more painful to me. I can't help them all, and for each person that stops helping ferrets, that leaves more that will not know love. To me, love includes proper care, veterinary care, nutritious diet, comfortable accomodations, plentiful socializing and out of cage time, clean environment, affection, play, attention, toys, safety, and more. It means meeting and exceeding the wants and needs of those you love. When a little one leaves our realm in my family, I know the little one was well loved and taken care of. I know that even though they had a rough beginning, when they entered my home that changed for the better. Sure there were adjustments to be made and we had trials and errors, but in the long run, they knew they were loved, safe and well cared for and I do as well. The more difficult cases, the little ones that came from good homes, that were loved, but the family got a puppy/kitten, or they moved, or they were expecting a human baby, or they just got tired of taking care of the ferrets, didn't have time for them any longer, didn't want to face the senior ailments, etc. - these are especially heartbreaking because the ferrets don't understand why their loving family left them with a stranger in a strange place. They lost their home and their family.... Life goes on, but why people cause heartache to those that love them I will never understand. Sometimes situations dictate, but sometimes we can work through them to reach a viable solution that is best for all involved, if we try. Each of us has to make our own decisions and need to be comfortable with them, not only at the time but in the future as well. Life is hard enough without someone making it harder on an innocent. Please take responsibility for your actions and try not to hurt other beings. tle www.ferretfamilyservices.org [Posted in FML 6689]