I try not to get into things, I really do. But.....I joined this forum as an avenue on how to better take care of my babies, and to get the latest "scoop" on ferret issues. (Thanks to all who contribute) . I'll never forget the first time I opened a FML and read some nasty flaming. I was hurt. I thought that I had found a wonderful outlet of people that all had one thing in mind. The welfare and care of Ferrets. Now, I don't read every post, I discard the flames. As humans, we are all different, just as our little furry friends have their own little thing going on, so do we. We all have our little quirks, our likes and dislikes and our past histories along with the frustrations of the "Now" and our hopes of the future. All these things make us who we are, and give us connections to people who share them. these connections are treasures. They help us share, and learn from each other. Native Americans believe that the greatest thing you can do is share Knowledge learned in order that the tribe can survive. Flaming undermines these connection, and makes the tribe weak, as our treasured connections weaken. Maybe there's hurt, but the best thing to do, for your own health, is quietly let the person know, this does not have to be public to be effective, in fact it may give you points on the guts factor, But then let it go. Your own health is worth it. Anger can contribute to many health issues. The person who hurt you then has to deal with their own guilt and if there are no appologies , accept that that bridge is down, take another route. In this forum, all roads lead to the betterment of the lives of our little ones and getting knowledge out there to help those who are just learning, or trying to keep up with the newest, and support of those in need. I don't see any advantages towards those things in flaming OKAY I'm off the box, the next step is yours Cindy [Posted in FML 6624]