In this the merriest of seasons for many of us who hold and love older ferrets it is a tough time. Many of them are weary, ill and hanging on to life-- a mere shadow of what they once were. And for the humans that care for them. it is a painful and teary time. I realize there are a few folks out there who need this post today. I have shared these days over the course of my ferret years with far too many ferrets -- but I have learned some valuable lessons along the way. Something I wish to share for those who may walking these same steps whether this be the first time - or one of any number. How do we know when it is time- time to say goodbye or time to give permission? This time is the longest hour and the hardest part of the journey for ferret care givers. To recognize the reality of life passing and release the ones we love so dearly It is a difficult task for us all, but I have found it gives a little relief knowing they did not suffer for us. Hospice Mom Judy had to have this talk with Harry not long ago-- and after she did when he curled up to sleep-- he never woke up-- and that is the way I hope it will be for me. Harry passed on his terms knowing it was alright to go. In the beginning, I am afraid many of the little lost souls in my care lingered far longer than they should have - it was for me. I was not ready to let them slip away - and consequently they hung on without joy, without luster and without quality. At this season of giving I am giving to you who may be walking this path the insight I have gained after sitting, holding, comforting and crying over hundreds of little souls the wisdom to give permission for a life without pain, without illness. For the chance for that special companion to leave our world with dignity instead of lingering . Those words allowing release .." If it is time to go, it is all right, I will find you when my day comes", goes a long way. I still cannot speak those words without tears, but I know that for many of these little souls who bond so closely with us it is a necessary gift. I give you my earned wisdom for use when your times are in need. Passing the Peace of this season to you all. Alicia, a shelter mom http://www.ferretwise.org [Posted in FML 5462]