First of all, our sincerest condolences to all who have lost a dear ferret, recently or in the past. Our hearts are with you and we are so very sorry for your loss or losses even though we may have not contacted you individually. I have skipped reading a lot of posts and sometimes the whole fml. I have enjoyed reading the fml for years now, but I find all the flaming of shelters or people is wrong (just my own opinion). We all are here for one thing and that is Ferrets, whether it be health, help, news or whatever for our ferrets. I feel there is too much "beating a dead horse" and we need to stop and go back to the purpose of this forum. No one is perfect, we all make mistakes, etc. We all try to do the best we can, whether we are a shelter or individual, we are here for the ferrets. I do not think people should be flamed for what they say or do, especially on this forum, if it is in the best interest of ferrets. If there is a problem, one should directly email the person they are having the problems with. I have seen good people with great intentions giving information on care, illness, etc, which I am sure takes much time to investigate, hoping to help others, who do not intentionally misdirect or hurt anyone or any ferret, get flamed in the past. I think we all need to really think about things before putting them into writing on the fml before we hurt another person or shelter. We need to walk that mile in their shoes. I believe quite a few ferret shelters have closed and the ones we have, need more support than ever to continue helping and finding homes for unwanted ferrets. If a shelter needs help, I feel in my own opinion, that this is the place for help and people should not feel bad about asking for support as long as the money is being used to help ferrets. Please, we do all have that one common bond of loving ferrets and/or owning them. We need to stay together and focus on helping each other, not hurting one another. I guess it would be that way in a perfect world but we are not in a perfect world. I have posted in the past and am probably guilty of flaming or asking the wrong question or giving the wrong opinion which yes we all are entitled to. I think the fear of being flamed for an opinion has made many people afraid to post. If one has a problem with someone, I (just me, myself and I only opinion) feel we should tactfully, directly contact the person with whom we are having the problem unless of course it is a proven abuse situation or situation that needs the help of the ferret community. Please, no flames for my opinion, which this is. I do not want to feel I should post anonymously to voice my opinion, I do not write this to intentionally hurt anyone and hope it does not, it is just my own opinion, stupid or not. Maybe we need a seperate spin off from the fml for flaming and debating :-) Eleanor, Donald and the 6 pack of ferrets [Posted in FML issue 5216]