Vicki wrote: >BUT I certainly don't think that I have a right to tell someone else >what they can post Sure you do. You just did. And you have done so before. Many of us on the FML have. It's not exactly a new or unusual route for the FML. I think it is just more noticeable when suggestions involve a person's own way of posting. Furthermore, I do think that most of them are only that -- suggestions. I mean, Bill is the ultimate one who decides so if he says it goes in the FML then it goes in. That's no matter if any one of us: you, me, or anyone else finds unappealing about it for whatever reason, and of course that is the way it should be with him using his rules and his common sense and fairness as moderator. So, by definition of effect such posts only have the power of suggestions, anyway. Besides, kindly worded stuff amounts to suggestions instead of telling someone to do something -- also by definition but this time definition through method used. It is not like this has been something overwhelming enough to warrant making people angry, or fearful, or over-acting in any way. What have been posted have been the comments of people who were finding the list losing its balance and joy, and working to try to bring in more of what we personally find adds life and lift to the list while letting people know what was causing us to not read posts or sometimes the whole FML. It doesn't help anyone if people don't read, so knowing that info ultimately helps those who need their posts to be read. Sometimes suggestions are thought about and taken, sometimes not. It doesn't matter who -- besides Bill Gruber -- makes the suggestions. That's just life. No biggie. [Posted in FML issue 4864]