Let me say at the onset, to make it in my house, you need four feet and a tail. I have to side with Jen B. flyingirish. That said, I hope you find a home for Flip, and do be careful with the fiancee. Sounds like a winner to me. You don't say how old you two are, but if you are planning a family, they do not have shelters for kids. Only day care. I never give advice, but if he was mine, I'd have my lawyer on speed dial. This man has no compassion, don't get sick, and don't ask him to cut you a little slack. There are other men out there, real men, the kind that help little old ladies across the street, are moved by a childs tears, can gentle a frightened animal, change a diaper, help with the housework, and cook a meal. Sissy, I don't think so. My friends husband is six feet two, 240 pounds, fathered four kids, is a deacon in his church, is an excellant provider, and lifts weights. I was married to the other kind, be careful. Marilyn [Posted in FML issue 4836]