When folks have to ask us not to "flame" them - when they have found themselves backed into a corner and need to get rid of their fuzzies, due to health issues, or life circumstances for them, spinning out of control - that is pretty pathetic. I for one, am ashamed of myself, for some of the comments I have made in the past - and am now working hard to be more kind, considerate, and understanding. We all need to remember that "circumstances alter cases" - and that noone's life is perfect. It really does break my heart to see people "spurn" other members when they have to lose a beloved fuzzy due to their circumstances changing, or whatever. Shame on us, for behaving in such a fashion. I ask now too, that since I am not perfect (yes, I AM working on it though!) - that if I have offended someone here on this list - then please forgive my idiocy in not thinking before I wrote. I don't want to see anymore messages that start out with, or end with "please don't flame me". That to me is also saying that because we have behaved in such a discriminating fashion, (and yes I am referring to myself as well) - that people are now "afraid" to come here for the help that we all have given in the past. I for one, am going to start watching "my mouth" (or fingers) and am going to work on THINKING before I "speak". Maybe a little at a time, we can get back to where we used to be - the HELPING group - not the "Flaming Group". Working on trying to become a better person, Kim and Her Army of Idiots...... [Posted in FML issue 4607]