>If you didn't disclose ANY information then how would anyone know >about it? LOL! Actually, if you look at my past posts you'll see I did disclose some general stuff that could have been just anybody's ferrets and which really did explain the general situations but I drew a line when there were demands for more because I felt that could have been intrusive upon the people and they deserve more respect than that. The fact of the matter just is that people do not have a right to know whatever they want to know all of the time and it would pretty awful if people could, even if none of it was hurtful the sheer loss of privacy would be painful. Privacy does matter. I know that not everyone feels that way, but I do and "to thine own self be true" and so on... Now, there are other secrets which I was strenuously asked to never share with anyone which even Steve doesn't know, and you know for sure that means that no one else does because no one has ever mattered as much ever in my life as he has these last 25 years. The irony of this is that in one of those cases I can't even recall the person's name any longer who told me, but I do remember the secret which was told to me over 30 years ago. I don't tell anyone what it is, though, because I promised not to and that is just that. That is just the way I am. Everyone has degrees and types of sharing, but I have more than a few times (Okay, often.) seemed rather distant to some people because I tend to be more careful than most with what I share about others. To be honest, I don't even read gossip columns because it feels intrusive to me, even though I know most of that stuff is probably given to the columnists. That's just me. I think that pushing for more details doesn't make sense, anyway. The entire topic of which Lupron works best for which ferret is so individual and needs to be suited to the nuances of the individual ferrets while actual researchers who bother to control their studies well need to delve further. Nothing of that scale is about to be settled in public fora. What my point was, was that people need to know what they are buying, so even with good intentions on the part of the seller it would help avoid a lot of accidental difficulties if the places where those communications are falling through in relation to types of Lupron were shored up. That's it: truth in advertising and all that... >but getting ticked off about people pestering you to reveal something >that you were sworn not to (which I think that the original teller of >the info wouldn't even want it mention, let alone be named) is a bit >unrealistic as people have an inner curiosity to know things they are >told they cannot know and playing "I Know Something You Don't Know" is >unfair and cruel I disagree, Lisa, but I like that you put it so gently. We all know that in relation to our own lives there are things which can be shared TO A DEGREE (as well as there being others which can be shared fully and some which just can't be shared except with those we most love). There is nothing which says that even those who are curious can't exert some self-control and realize that beyond a certain point things aren't going to be shared, especially if they are not the speaker's own to share. I'll far more readily share things about myself and my life than I will about anyone else's. Curiosity is a good thing; it's actually one of the characteristics I most respect and treasure, but when it intrudes into someone else's business it needs to be tempered with respect for privacy. Frankly, when that point is reached "pestering" or bullying makes me even more decided to protect the privacy of those who spoke to me, partly because I'd hope to get that same respect myself and partly because I am as stubborn as any old goat I've ever met. Okay, I am an old fart, and a stubborn one, and I have some character aspects which seem better suited to a different century, but we all do have, you know. Others will feel differently, but I don't live their lives or make their choices, and they don't live my life and make my choices. A gentle inquiry wouldn't have gotten me annoyed and would have gotten a "Sorry, but I just can't and you asked so nicely that I feel bad about it" type of reply, but one which reminds me of the way that a bullying third grade teacher I had spoke to most of us is sure to set my teeth on edge, and that is just how I personally react to what I consider inappropriate demands. It may be a character flaw to develop a hide of brick when something feels like bullying, but, heck, it's my character flaw and it's just me. I'm far from perfect just like any of us here, and there are some people here who dislike me enough that I doubt they'd even get near my rather copious shadow. That's not an indictment; it's just a fact of human life. We're all only human and some pairs of us just will grate due to clashing techniques and pasts, while other pairs of us will be able to disagree with mutual admiration and respect. It's just life. Not a biggie. [Posted in FML issue 4559]