But this is how I felt this morning, while I was getting ready to go to work. This is not the first time that I have had to spend over an hour trying to explain the intent of a post or defend a post and I know that I am not the only person who has had to do so. First of all, I am NOT a confrontational person, so I find it distasteful to be taken that way. Any of you on this list who knows me, knows that I would much rather see everyone do a group hug and sing Kumbaya around a campfire that get into a bru-ha-ha about a minor technicality in wording. Posting on this list can sometimes be considered a death wish and I find this difficult to understand in a community of people who all share the same passion. Why couldn't this misunderstanding in wording be taken off list to better explain and clarify? Wouldn't that have been a much better use of our time? A simple post to me saying, "Phyllis, I don't quite understand your statement about 'what ever'. Did I understand you correctly to say 'what ever'?" Perhaps, in the future, I will have any post to FML carefully scrutinzed by my attorney, my pastor and my vet before I hit the "send" button. Phyllis M. Spy [Posted in FML issue 4488]