You know i was thinking. The FML is a lot like a forrest after a long drought. It only takes one spark to set it ablaze. When the whole situation with Monty began, I was absolutly amazed at the flow of compassion and support shown by the list. Then one day a couple of sparks flew then...WOOSH! The whole list was up in flames! (pardon the pun) A normal behavior for a toddler somehow magages to turn my son into a crazed killer and a few negative comments made by my husband suddenly makes him a violent and abusive man!! What started out as a rocky uncertain time has turned into a life or death saga! I came seeking advice on the best course of action, compassion turned to flames for asking if finding a new home for Monty was the best thing to do, the strongest advice was 'make that a last resort', but when I did try other methods, I got flammed for not giving him up. I realize now that once the list gets started, there is nothing I could possibly do, whatever I did would evoke flamidg from someone. I know that everyone is acting out of concern for Monty, but when advice becomes based on rumor not fact, that can hurt the fuzzies more than help them. I realize that posting before I knew exactly what was going on was not the smartest thing to do, but I am the sole fuzzlover in my family and I like to be connected to others. I understand where the hostility is comming from, to those who do not know or understand the situation, it is easy to make assumptions, it just concerns me, I already know a good deal about ferrets, but what if someone who knew absolutely nothing came on here looking for advice, got flamed and left the list. What might happen to their fuzzies? I know compared to woozles, hoomans are a primitive and mundane species, but sometimes a little understanding and patience towards the people who take care of the ferrets is the best way to help them. Once again, I would like to thank all of those wonderful people who have shown their love and concern for Monty even if it ruffled some hooman feathers! Amanda and Monty the shoehound Have you lost your mind? Better check your ferrets hidey hole! http://www.homestead.com/revelationstoday/rev1.html [Posted in FML issue 3715]