Lydia's right. Since many of us are not expert writers, our posts can sometimes fall to misinterpretation and flaming. We love ferrets and try to be clear but may still need understanding and kindness. For the most part, I've noticed there is more of that on the FML than unfair criticism. May I add to Lydia's post? Readers also do not have the assistance of seeing a smile or frown behind a statement. If they give themselves time and thought before replying to something that does stir disagreement, everyone benefits. Replies can be more helpful and people will feel encouraged to keep sharing their experiences. Thanks, Lydia, for your thoughtful insight. Alice [Posted in FML issue 3729]