My deepest condolences to Kim for the sadness-the abysmal let down- the criminal justice system has provided. Having worked for years with indigent women and children, I have spent my fair time in court, and worked with the DEA, local police, State Police, and FBI. My personal experiences were similar to Kims. Only the lives of abused children, attempted murder, and kidnapping were some of the issues I was dealing with. One child was most likely murdered. Six others were. The best thing to do is find out how to avoid the same mistakes again-and discover what they are. Sukie wrote so beautifully on this subject. I do not think the leopard will change it's spots. You may need to be the one who has to tell officials what can and cannot be done. The ignorance in the "system" was rampant here. But I was also dealing with an entirely corrupt police force-according to people who had been on the force and were now with the FBI. Please don't give up, Kim. At least all of us know about this accursed "shelter." There cannot be a one of us that has not been moved by the tragedy. Lisette [Posted in FML issue 3325]