I believe that when people take the time to send condolences to those that have lost a beloved family member, they really do care and they are reaching out to that person with heartfelt love in a way that they hope will help to heal the hurt. That doesn't mean that those that don't respond don't care but perhaps they feel the pain of your loss silently. When someone responds to our losses, I know it is because they care about the little ones and about me too and they want to share their feelings. If they respond with something I don't believe in, I don't take it negatively, I take it as in the spirit it is given, with love, even though it may be different than what I believe. When I wrote happenings at Rainbow Bridge I was torn on sending it because some people may not believe (I won't say my beliefs, we'll just leave them a mystery :-)) but it is my way of showing I care, whether you believe or not. I hope that those that don't believe do realize that and please don't take it negatively. I hope I haven't boggled this message but if I have, to put it more clearly - it's all about love and caring for and about each other and our little ones. Warm gentle hugs to all. tle Troy Lynn Eckart Ferret Family Services http://www-personal.ksu.edu/~sprite/ffs.html http://www.geocities.com/Petsburgh/Haven/5481/ Please sign up to support our charity http://www.iGive.com/html/ssi.cfm?cid=46&mid=58395 [Posted in FML issue 3243]