I, personally, don't post to this list when I lose one of my babies. That is my choice but it isn't because I'm not religious or because I don't like Sandee. I don't post for other reasons. I think that losing a little one is a very personal and emotional thing. I personally notify those who knew my baby and who know me. I do not like getting cards and condolence letters from total strangers who don't know me or my little one. It depersonalizes the whole event, in my opinion. I might write of the death down the road but not when it happens. For those who post of the deaths in their household, there's not one single thing wrong with that. We all handle our grief in different ways. I do enjoy reading what Sandee and Rev. Sims have to say and am fully aware that I can scroll past them if I don't want to read them. There are people on this list who start controversy and who post inflmmatory things without documenting them. If that is allowed, then Sandee and Rev. Sims should be allowed to post their beliefs also. Katharine [Posted in FML issue 3242]