Dear FML friends,
this is a post I wrote several years ago, but the information is
timeless. I am sending it along in the hopes that those who need
this support will find it. May you all have wonderful Holidays.


 Subject:       Sometimes the greatest gift......

In this the merriest of seasons for many of us who hold and love older
ferrets it is a tough time. Many of them are weary, ill and hanging on
to life -- a mere shadow of what they once were.

And for the humans that care for them. it is a painful and teary time.
I realize there are a few folks out there who need this post today.

I have shared these days over the course of my ferret years with far
too many ferrets -- but I have learned some valuable lessons along the
way. Something I wish to share for those who may be walking these same
steps whether this be the first time - or one of any number of times.

How do we know when it is time - time to say goodbye or time to give
permission? This time is the longest hour and the hardest part of the
journey for ferret care givers. To recognize the reality of life
passing and release the ones we love so dearly

It is a difficult task for us all, but I have found it gives a little
relief knowing they did not suffer for us. Hospice Mom Judy had to
have this talk with Harry not long ago -- and after she did when he
curled up to sleep -- he never woke up -- and that is the way I hope
it will be for me.

Harry passed on his terms knowing it was alright to go.

In the beginning, I am afraid many of the little lost souls in my care
lingered far longer than they should have - it was for me. I was not
ready to let them slip away - and consequently they hung on without
joy, without luster and without quality. At this season of giving I am
giving to you who may be walking this path the insight I have gained
after sitting, holding, comforting and crying over hundreds of little
souls. The wisdom to give permission for a life without pain, without
illness is a true gift, the chance for that special companion to leave
our world with dignity instead of lingering on.

Those words allowing release .." If it is time to go, it is all right,
I will find you when my day comes", goes a long way. I still cannot
speak those words without tears, but I know that for many of these
little souls who bond so closely with us it is a necessary gift.

I give you my earned wisdom for use when your times are in need.

Passing the Peace of this season to you all.

Alicia, a shelter mom
for Ferret Wise

[Posted in FML 7630]