Christy,
 
Don't worry about Han & Leia - they'll turn affectionate in their own time.
I've found that even the most aloof of my ferrets has to break down and show
me lurve every so often. :)  However, there are a few things you'll want to
do to get it across to your kits that affection, not squirming and nipping,
are the ways to go about interacting with you.
 
Make sure you hold them LOTS.  Support their rump with one hand, and place
the palm of your other hand under their chest, wrapping your fingers around
their upper torso so that their front legs stick out between some of your
fingers.  It's a pretty natural ferret-holding position, and it's a good one
that keeps them from squirming too much.  Train them several times daily by
picking them up like this.  When they squirm, say NO!  and when they sit
still, praise them.  After a minute or so, let them go when they've sat
still for a few seconds in succession.  NEVER put them down if they nip you
or when they're squirming.  They must learn that when you pick them up, you
hold them until you want to put them down, and that you'll only put them
down if they're behaving.
 
This sort of training makes it easy for you to do all sorts of things later
on - clip nails, inspect the ferret for signs of ill health, hold the ferret
for cuddling, etc.  I've found that males are more likely than females to
curl up in your lap for a nap, but females are more likely than males to do
something cute like crawl into your sleeve to sleep.
 
Melissa and the gang of four, in which the 8-mo-old Easel is a veritable
tasmanian devil of bounciness amidst the slow, sluggish older ferrets. ;)
 
 ___ Melissa Litwicki __ [log in to unmask] ___
 By the whole newsgroup devoted tennis showing
     it after scarfing fork and laughters
 
[P.S.] Oops, I think I forgot to include this last bit:
 
Christy:
I've noticed that after ferrets reach a year or so of age, they settle
down lots and become a lot more cuddly - almost overnight. Enjoy the first
several months of wildness - your ferret will never twirl and frenzy in
quite the same way again. :)
[Posted in FML issue 1889]