Hey,
I have a question for the more experienced please.
 
I have 4 ferrets
 
My friend has 3, all are healthy & ADV negative so we thought it would be
really cool to start having playdates at each others homes for fun.
 
This is so terrible my friend & I had a very uncomfortable evening
because her large male kept bullying all of my 4 to the point of
screaming out in pain.  My 2 males are about 3 yrs of age and my 2
females about 18 mos.  My friends males are young about 18 mos.  She
also ahs a 8 month old female.  She tells me her males 'play' like this
all the time--she hears this screaming all day long and feels it is
natural.  Well maybe it is natural for her brood but after a while it was
clear to me my babies were no longer enjoying themselves and I ended the
session.  With my friend saying stuff like my ferrets just don't know how
to play.  I felt like I was in the playground when my kids were small &
dealing with bullies.
 
Do you think this will always continue with this large male or will it
settle down with time?  he is just a year & a half is clearly the
dominant in his home but this went on at my place too :(
 
I am so disappointed thinking it would be a great stimulus to both sets
of ferrets to have this opportunity.
 
What do you all think?
 
Thank you so much
Mary Ann
You were once wild here. Don't let them tame you.
Isadora Duncan~~
 
A wound will not heal until the matter is given words and witness
Clarissa Pinkola Estes~~
[Posted in FML issue 4178]